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Questions to Ask Your Teenager
Teens talk when it feels like a conversation, not a check-up. These questions ask for their opinion, which most teens are happy to give.
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Easy openers
- What's something you've been listening to a lot lately?
- What's the most overrated thing right now?
- What's a show or video you think I'd actually like?
- What's the best thing you ate this week?
- If you had a free Saturday with no rules, what would you do?
- What's a trend you don't get?
- What's something you're good at that I might not know about?
- Who's the funniest person in your year?
- What's one app you'd delete forever if you could?
- What's the best advice you've heard recently?
Their opinions
- What do adults get wrong about your generation?
- What rule of ours do you think is unfair, and why?
- If you ran the school, what's the first thing you'd change?
- What makes a teacher good?
- What do you think about how much time people spend on their phones?
- What's a cause you care about?
- Who's someone online you think is actually worth following?
- What's something you've changed your mind about?
- Is it harder or easier being a teenager now than when I was one?
- What's something you wish you'd learned earlier?
Future
- If money didn't matter, what job would you try?
- Where would you like to live someday?
- What's something you want to learn this year?
- What's one thing you'd want your own kids to have that you had?
- What do you want to be known for?
- What's a skill you think everyone should learn?
- What would a perfect day look like when you're 25?
- Is there anything you'd like to try that we could do together?
- What's a goal you haven't told anyone about?
- What's scary about growing up, and what's exciting?
Friends and life
- Who do you feel most yourself around?
- What makes someone a good friend?
- Is there anyone you're worried about?
- What's the best thing about your friend group right now?
- Has anyone surprised you lately?
- What's stressing you out at the moment?
- What helps you relax?
- When do you feel most confident?
- What's something you'd like more of from me?
- What's something you'd like less of from me?
Deeper, when the moment's right
- What's something you're proud of that nobody noticed?
- What's the hardest thing about being you right now?
- If you could tell your younger self one thing, what would it be?
- What do you think matters most in life?
- Is there anything you wish we talked about more?
- What do you do when you feel down?
- What do you believe about God, and has it changed?
- What's a memory from when you were little that you love?
- What does a good family look like to you?
- Is there anything you need from me that you haven't asked for?
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Questions
How do I get my teenager to talk to me?
Ask for their opinion rather than a report, talk side by side (in the car, cooking, walking), and listen more than you advise.
What if they give one-word answers?
Try again another day without pushing. Teens often open up later in the evening or when you least expect it.